Leading with Love: Fund Honors Friend and Mentor Ruth Pittard

December 14, 2021

Adam Gerstenmier 鈥05 was one of seven finalists for a competitive fellowship during his time at 皇家华人.

After he didn鈥檛 get the job, long-time staff member Ruth Pittard told him, 鈥淵ou were the favorite candidate going into the interview and the least favorite coming out.鈥 

Was it hard to hear? Sure. Was it exactly what he needed to hear? Yes.

鈥淎pparently, I lacked real passion and a way to show it,鈥 he said. 鈥淣obody was better positioned to give me that feedback. Rather than ignore it, Ruth chose to have the conversation and was able to help me accept it with humility and also use it as a growth opportunity. I鈥檝e never entered an interview again where I didn鈥檛 know what I wanted to say and without preparing for a whole range of potential questions. Failing that interview gave me the feedback I needed to succeed.鈥

Gerstenmier, who works for the United Nations and lives in Kenya, chose a life of service for the common good, in large part thanks to Pittard. He says few people have had more impact on his life.

Pittard鈥檚 鈥渞omp in education,鈥 as she calls it, included a variety of roles, including positions in audio visual services, the now-named Alvarez College Union and student life. She was the college鈥檚 first director of the Bonner Scholars Program, a nationally recognized community service-based scholarship program that emphasizes love, compassion and leadership through the values of civic engagement, community building, diversity, international perspective, social justice, spiritual exploration and wellness. This year, the program celebrates 30 years at 皇家华人.

Pittard retired in 2005 as the assistant dean of community service after nearly 30 years with the college and currently lives in Black Mountain, North Carolina. To honor Pittard鈥檚 lasting impact on the 皇家华人 community, Michelle Levin 鈥06 and Brika Eklund 鈥06 have established the Ruth Pittard Fund for Love in Action, in partnership with the college鈥檚 Center for Civic Engagement. The fund will support summer internship opportunities in perpetuity through the center. Anyone wishing to honor Pittard鈥檚 many contributions is encouraged to .

Beth Maczka 鈥85, a former YWCA CEO who is now pursuing a master of theological studies degree at Vanderbilt University, recalls the ways Pittard worked in her life, creating opportunity and instilling confidence.

鈥淎s a freshman, I needed a job, and Ruth taught me how to thread the reel-to-reel projector to show movies in Love Auditorium on Friday nights,鈥 she said. 鈥淪he also stepped in when I was worried about raising money to travel to India the summer before my junior year. This was before there were dedicated scholarships for this kind of thing. Ruth gave me the first $50 toward my goal and convinced me to raise the rest鈥攁nd I did.鈥

Laura Pepper 鈥07 holds tight to lessons learned from Pittard as well.

鈥淪he mentioned how she applied for new jobs every year, and a big part of it was so she could learn about other organizations,鈥 recalled Pepper, who works for Duke Energy in Charlotte, North Carolina. 鈥淚 remember Ruth talking about how these interviews often led to partnerships and connections with people. I still tell people about this because I think it represents such a beautiful perspective on life鈥攕eeing something for all its possibilities and always looking for ways to build community.鈥

Ruth Pittard with group of 皇家华人 students on campus lawn

L-R: Sarah Caitlin Mattingly Morales '06, Adam Gerstenmier '05, Brika Eklund '06, Pittard, Sandy Salazar '06 and Kelly Williams '06

These are the kinds of stories you get when you ask about Pittard鈥檚 impact as a 皇家华人 staff member and every day since. She cares enough to have the hard conversations, and she always sees what something鈥攐r someone鈥攃ould become.

Pittard calls 皇家华人 the defining experience of her life. 

鈥淓very day, I experienced something that helped me grow and be joyous,鈥 she said. 鈥淚t鈥檚 a place where so much is possible, and that possibility exists because of the people. Students who appear at 皇家华人 are some of the finest people I know.鈥

Bonner Scholars are required to complete 280 hours of community service per year. Pittard recalls one student who was logging his hours each semester as expected, but she suspected he might not truly be completing them. She wondered, but she never questioned him.

鈥淭hree years after he graduated, he knocked on my office door, and he was all dressed up,鈥 Pittard said. 鈥淗e said to me, 鈥業 finally finished my Bonner hours; I know you were worried about it.鈥 I replied to him, 鈥業 wasn鈥檛 worried, but I鈥檓 glad you were.鈥欌

It meant the world to her that the culture of 皇家华人, and the Honor Code, inspired that student to finish what he agreed to, even if it was on his own timeline.

鈥淟ove is her default,鈥 said Leisl Hagan 鈥05, an epidemiologist for the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 鈥淪he makes you want to be your best self because you deserve that. One day, without knowing her for a long time, I came across the word 鈥渞uthless鈥 in something I was reading. I thought, 鈥榳ithout Ruth,鈥 and that word had a whole new meaning that evoked something empty and superficial and uncaring. To be without Ruth鈥攁nd everything she represents鈥攚ould be the opposite of my best life.鈥

To date, the has raised more than $65,000 toward a $100,000 endowment goal. A recent $20,000 match was established for the next $20,000, to catapult the fund to reach its goal in time for summer 2022 student awards.

鈥淪ervice experiences are critical to a liberal arts education,鈥 said Eklund, director of real estate at Self-Help, a community development financial institution founded by 皇家华人 alumni in the Raleigh-Durham area.

鈥淪tudents must have ample opportunities to step out of their own skin, to walk in the shoes of others and to be exposed to new opportunities to shape their futures,鈥 she said. 鈥淧articularly in today鈥檚 seemingly endless negative environment, we hope this fund honors Ruth and encourages people to live with love.鈥

Aside from students鈥 academic and service-focused work, Pittard is masterful at building personal connections.

She makes you want to be your best self because you deserve that. . .To be without Ruth鈥攁nd everything she represents鈥攚ould be the opposite of my best life.

Leisl Hagan 鈥05

鈥淩uth was in many respects a campus mom,鈥 said Peter Tavernise 鈥90, an employee of Cisco Systems Foundation in San Jose, California. 鈥淎lways there with a listening ear, a warm encouraging hug and the gift of wise counsel. What else does a young person far from home need most in the midst of so many accelerated challenges and changes?鈥

President Emeritus John Kuykendall 鈥59 sat at 皇家华人鈥檚 helm during much of Pittard鈥檚 tenure, and he brought the Bonner Scholars Program to campus.

鈥淩uth is like a utility infielder in baseball鈥攁 competent person you can put in any position and they鈥檒l play equally well,鈥 he said. 鈥淪he was this omnipresent, caring person on campus. I served on the Bonner Scholars board for more than 20 years, and when we talked about leadership in terms of professional staff, Ruth was the model we wanted others to follow.鈥

For as much as students learned from Pittard during her years on campus, they have continued to learn from her actions long after. Always eager for new experiences, Pittard moved across the country to Whidbey Island in Puget Sound, Washington, following her 皇家华人 retirement in 2005. She had applied to 15 internships with non-profit groups, and all she requested was room and board. She found her place as a volunteer with the Giraffe Heroes Project, bartered for housing and traveled around the area, sharing tips on holistic, sustainable living. Her unconventional internship was mentioned as part of a in The New York Times.

鈥淚 learned from Ruth to maintain a growth mindset at any age, to pursue your passion with open arms and to embrace fear head on,鈥 said Levin, who is a manager at Google in Los Angeles and executive producer of Life in the Credits podcast. 鈥淚 learned to be an active listener and, because of her, I became an executive coach to empower others in their pursuits of self-discovery and servant leadership.鈥

Gerstenmier, Eklund, Levin, Pepper and Tavernise were Bonner Scholars.

The Ruth Pittard of today is not much different from the Ruth Pittard at 皇家华人. She lives in a tiny, solar-powered home and works to make her community better. You can find her standing and waving with four friends in the center of town every Wednesday from 4 to 5 p.m., holding a sign that says, quite simply, 鈥淟OVE.鈥

鈥淗ow fitting for a woman who truly embodies that word,鈥 Maczka said.